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My child is bullying others, what now?.
Does your child bully others? Then you will be shocked when you hear this. Especially because parents often think their child would never do this. Sometimes it happens anyway, against all expectations. What do you do then? How do you make sure your child stops bullying? You can read more about it in this article.
Signs that your child bullies
When you suspect your child is bullying, it is important to watch how your child interacts with others. This can be at home, at school, or online. It can be hard to notice bullying because it often happens when parents are not around. These signs can help you:
- Do other parents warn you that your child shows bullying behavior?
- Does your child often react with aggression at home when there is a fight?
- Are there other things you notice that make you think about bullying?
Talk with your child. Tell them you love them, but that their behavior is not allowed. Children often do not see the results of their actions and do not always understand what bullying does to another child.
Help my child bullies. How do I handle this?
If your child bullies other children, you may be in a difficult situation. You may deal with angry parents and talks at school. Has it become clear that your child bullies other children? That can be quite unpleasant. You may face angry parents and talks at school. This is all part of it, but it can also be very hard to handle. Do not hide. Say that you find the situation bad and that you want to help stop the bullying. Do not forget to ask for help from trusted people around you or your doctor.
Talk to your child about bullying
First, it is important to talk with your child. This only works if your child trusts you want to help. Give your child space to tell all sides of the story. Ask what exactly happened and look for reasons why your child bullies. Find solutions together to stop the bullying. Give your child responsibility for the situation. In the talk, explain what bullying does to someone and that you do not accept bullying. Do not reject your child’s personality, but their behavior. So not: ‘you are mean’, but: ‘it is mean to hit someone’. You can also watch videos about the effects of bullying to help your child understand how it feels for other children. It is important your child feels safe with you. You can agree that your child comes to you if something happened and that you do not get angry but look for a solution together. Sometimes it also helps to talk with other children who bully or who are bullied.
Contact with school
The atmosphere at school often plays an important role in bullying. It is important to keep talking with the school. What actions does the school take to stop bullying? Do they follow the steps in their policy? Can they spend more time and attention on a good atmosphere in class? And does that help? Keep track and agree that the school keeps you well informed.
Help for your child
Does your child find it hard to get along well with others? Or to follow agreements and rules? Always give a good example yourself. You can also look for courses or training. For example, to improve empathy, social skills, or your child’s self-image.
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