School and toilet training.

Your child is almost four but is not toilet trained during the day. This can be stressful when your child is almost starting school. Can a school refuse your child then? And is it bad if your child already goes to primary school and sometimes has an accident?

Not toilet trained at school

It can also happen that your child is not trained at all when starting school for the first time. This is annoying, but a school can refuse your child in that case refuse.

In special education there is more help for going to the toilet, but even there a child who is not toilet trained can be refused. That is why it is wise to talk with the school on time about toilet training.

If there is a medical reason why your child is not trained yet, the school may not refuse your child. Talk with the school about support options.

Agreements with the school

Luckily, many schools accept children who are not toilet trained yet. The school then makes agreements with you as a parent. For example, that you come to school to change your child.

Five tips if your child is not toilet trained

1. Do not be ashamed
   Not every child learns toilet training easily. In the kindergarten class, many children still practice toilet training.
2. Look at what the school can do
   Ask if the school has a protocol for toilet training. Is your child very stressed about going to school? Ask if your child can get used to the class once earlier or more. Make agreements with the teacher about how to handle your child’s toilet training.
3. Follow the school at home
   Try to do at home what helps make your child toilet trained and fit it with what is possible at school. For example, teach your child at home to change itself after an accident or practice fixed toilet moments that fit the school rhythm.
4. Do not put too much pressure on toilet training
   It sometimes takes time, but it really gets better. Keep rewarding your child for every success and do not tie toilet training too much to starting primary school.
5. Ask for help
   For example, from daycare, preschool, the child health clinic, or the doctor. At school you can contact the school doctor, internal support coordinator, or principal.

Questions or personal advice?

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